"People tend to assign a greater set of expectations around education, behavior, and other means of showing up socially to the experiences we have—or didn’t have— in our upbringing than they do to the personal choices and decisions we may make despite them."
I appreciate you going a level or two deeper than the obvious surface conversation regarding his behavior potentially compromising his bag.
The part about this conversation that bothers me the most, is that people try to act like because he came from a two-parent household, and went to a private school, that he is trying to be something that he's not.
I personally know hard working moms and dads from tough upbringings that moved their families to the suburbs, but it most certainly did not change their mental, emotional, and psychological makeup. Changing zip codes does not change who we are.
Additionally, I know several guys from the hood that got scholarships to go and play at private schools tuition free. Again, we can't presume just because you are at a private school and/or smart enough to handle the academics, that you are not about that life.
Most of us are adept at navigating the rules and parameters of the game in order to accomplish certain goals, right? The same thing applies for them, except the component of financial invincibility comes into play in a way for them that it does not for the average citizen - particularly a person of color from very humble means.
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"People tend to assign a greater set of expectations around education, behavior, and other means of showing up socially to the experiences we have—or didn’t have— in our upbringing than they do to the personal choices and decisions we may make despite them."
I appreciate you going a level or two deeper than the obvious surface conversation regarding his behavior potentially compromising his bag.
The part about this conversation that bothers me the most, is that people try to act like because he came from a two-parent household, and went to a private school, that he is trying to be something that he's not.
I personally know hard working moms and dads from tough upbringings that moved their families to the suburbs, but it most certainly did not change their mental, emotional, and psychological makeup. Changing zip codes does not change who we are.
Additionally, I know several guys from the hood that got scholarships to go and play at private schools tuition free. Again, we can't presume just because you are at a private school and/or smart enough to handle the academics, that you are not about that life.
Most of us are adept at navigating the rules and parameters of the game in order to accomplish certain goals, right? The same thing applies for them, except the component of financial invincibility comes into play in a way for them that it does not for the average citizen - particularly a person of color from very humble means.
Great piece!
I've suffered from money invisibility. It definitely sucks. Now I've got to earn it again. I know now 😮💨
Love your perspective & the way you break down the information you choose to write about keep up the good work brother